How to Identify and Address “ Under the Radar,” Toxic Communication

by Lois Barth, Human Development Expert, Speaker, Executive Leadership Coach, and Author

How many times have you come away from a conversation or interaction feeling less than, anxious, or slighted, but you can’t figure out why? You notice you’re replaying the scenario in your head and going down the coulda, shoulda, woulda path, second-guessing yourself black hole of despair and distraction.

Our rationalizing narrative will go to great lengths, making excuses as to why it wasn’t that bad, leaving you feeling both clueless and chaotic in your own mind. Welcome to the world of covert micro aggressions, naysayers, and all-around under-the-radar toxic behavior.

I am an executive leadership coach who works with heart-centered and mission-driven leaders to be more effective and impactful. So much of moving forward is about getting out of your own way and identifying and addressing covert micro aggressions like these as an important step. Don’t let your grey matter be illegally sublet by crazy-making behavior like this.   

If you can relate to any or all of the things I mentioned, you are not alone, and I promise you that help is on the way. I’ve coached hundreds of clients in your situation and spoken to thousands who often ask how to deal with the naysayers, cranky pants, and all-around dial “D” for dysfunctional interactions that are way more covert and harder to spot and even harder to address.

Seeing this need, I have put together a series of videos, “Smart Sexy TV: What Nobody Talks About But Everyone Needs to Hear,” Check out my video called How to Deal with the Naysayers in Your Life that go through what I call the Art and Science of Being Slimed (code word for micro aggression and naysayers).

I promise you, if you integrate these techniques, you’ll be that much further along in mastering the art of not taking the bait from your too-close-for-comfort Toxic Avenger and stepping into your inner Superhero in your own life.